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21st January 2019, 22:18 | #11 |
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Take the holiday, they'll manage they're adults now. Plenty of people have lived in houses while doing them up. It's not ideal but they'll be fine.
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21st January 2019, 22:23 | #12 |
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What would you lose financially if you cancelled your holiday Ian?
As someone who gave up time between Christmas and New Year (last year 17/18) to put in a new bathroom suite and then help tile it - I know how important it is to help the kids out. Remember that what goes around comes around - my Dad helped me, then I helped him when he needed it. But even so - losing a substantial deposit would not be wise. Something I am sure they would understand. |
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Let's face it, if they're moving house then everything's going to be in boxes anyway: just unpack the essentials and chuck dust sheets over the rest, or put the bulk of it in storage short term. Sorry to sound harsh
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Ask yourself what your Daughter would do if you asked her the same question. I suspect in most cases they would go on holiday and possibly help later. Hope this helps Steve |
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22nd January 2019, 06:24 | #15 |
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Show them a painting brush, describe how it works, do the same with a screwdriver and hammer. Wish them well and go off on your holiday and relax and enjoy yourself remembering that when you get back you can get stuck in and help them as and when you wish. There adults they will figure it out..
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22nd January 2019, 06:57 | #16 |
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Look at it this way, you're only going on holiday, if it's for a week or two and it's all done and dusted when you get back then it wasn't that big of a job. If when you return it's still ongoing then it's a bigger job and then you can pitch in and help.
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Oooo, damned if you do and damned if you don't scenareo, I've been there a couple of times with my two eldest. If your holiday was booked prior to the house exchange then take your holiday and help them out when you get back, I'm sure they can appreciate that, tell them you will be more than happy to help them after your holiday.
Many people work with what they have for the short term and half the fun of a new house is being able to see it develop as you do the jobs one by one, they may not see it now but somewhere down the line they will really appreciate the effort they put in and the end result will justify the short term inconvenience they experienced. I helped my two eldest on numerous occasions with diy projects etc but they also knew I couldn't always be there on demand and so they had to 'rough it' a bit whilst the jobs were being sorted. |
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